I just had gastric sleeve surgery 3 weeks ago. I have to say the first week out, I realized that my life has truly changed.
I don’t cook as much for my family because I’m not hungry as much or because I am on a liquid diet. So the common thing of cooking and smelling food in the house is not as frequent, which I think my son misses.
So, cooking was a relaxing part of my life, I miss this. But, I have now started cooking home meals again as my family needs to eat.
The problem I have had is with my mother. The surgery has become a point of contention between her and me. I feel so alone in this journey and I’m trying to navigate my way with my new stomach and eating habits.
My mother has been very critical. She does not understand the surgery, even though she is a medical professional and just badgers me about what I consume and drink now. I tell her that I cannot drink a whole cupful of soup in one sitting. With this surgery you have to take small baby sips of liquid, as I told her the stomach can hold about 1 -2 oz. only.
She goes ballistic talking about that is not healthy, “Oh my God” as she states. Just the ongoing criticism about the surgery.
Yet when I was dieting on my own, she would always asks “What are you doing about the weight?” Now that I have done something, she is just not supportive and can’t and will never understand my decision because she weighs 150 pounds.
So, overall, I have had to keep this to myself. I will only communicate with people who have had the surgery or are is about to go on this journey. I will not tell anyone else in my family or friends other than the 3 people I told.
I think if you tell a lot of people, well, there is the fact of accountability. People will expect you to be slim real quick because you had surgery.
But what happens if you don’t lose all the weight? I think I need to be accountable to myself for weight loss and not other people.
It should be understood that some people will never try or will understand their loved one going through with weight loss surgery. So I say be careful of whom you share it with.